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Creator of The Joy Journal for Grown Ups Laura Brand joins Happiful’s podcast to talk about creativity, connection, curiosity and her passion for lifelong learning

Laura Brand: “I love learning in adulthood”

Laura Brand, author of The Joy Journal for Grown Ups: 50 homemade craft ideas to inspire creativity and connection, joins I am. I have to share that she’s still ‘the weird child’ at heart and why learning as an adult is so important to her.

Read an interview about The Joy Journal for Grown Ups in the upcoming edition of Happiful, out on May 19. Subscribe today to receive it through your letterbox!

From Laura’s episode of I am. I have

I am still the ‘weird child’

“I don’t see it as putting myself down,” Laura shares, smiling at the label. “I’m really coming to embrace the fact that I like my own space, I like solitude, I like spending a lot of time outside. I really, really enjoyed make-believe and I was very engaged in my imagination and had big visions for things. I would say that I’m coming home to that part of myself.”

Laura reflects on the journey back to her true self. “What happens is that, as you get older, you fall into a much more run of the mill work-life, probably leaning towards stuff you’re not intended to be doing,” she explains. She attributes motherhood, personal growth, moving to the country, and having an incredibly supportive partner as the main factors for her recovery from burnout and coming back to what she knew she wanted to be doing in her heart.

“I changed my life completely. I engage much more with an outdoor life now, that’s probably why I’m coming back to being that person. The child that would be outside collecting twigs and sticks with muddy hands and muddy boots. So I am still that child with intrigue and curiosity.”

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I am learning

“As I write about in the book, I didn’t always have the easiest time learning at school,” Laura explains. “I found concentrating terrible, I really struggled. I got labelled dyslexic at 13 and it was helpful because they gave you assisted learning for exams but really what I felt it almost did, was give me an excuse not to be as good as everybody.”

Laura shares that she had a real thirst for knowledge and education, which sadly dropped away when she was made aware of this label. However, over 10 years later, that desire to learn came back once again.

I love learning in adulthood. Rephrasing the ‘I’m not good at’ to ‘show me how’!”

“When I was burnt out, I decided to learn massage. I wanted to do something calming and mind-body related. I got a certificate in that and Reiki healing but I didn’t intend it to be my job. I had this want for equipping myself with things I felt I couldn’t do or didn’t have time to do before. I started to learn about the body and I found it absolutely fascinating.”

Learning hypnobirthing around the time Laura gave birth to her first daughter was also the catalyst for her to train herself to teach others, something she now does once or twice a year to support parents who are experiencing the same difficulties she and her partner were before they started the course.

“I love seeing people learning new things at this stage in life,” Laura beams. “I love learning in adulthood. Rephrasing the ‘I’m not good at’ to ‘show me how!'”

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Listen to Laura’s episode of I am. I have.

The Joy Journal for Grown Ups: 50 homemade craft ideas to inspire creativity and connection is out now. Follow Laura on Instagram.

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Give your working life a boost with these quick and easy wellbeing wins to transform your 9 to 5

10 quick wins for improving wellbeing at work

Work can get overwhelming at times and, let’s be honest, it’s easy for workplace wellbeing to fall off the agenda. There’s always something getting in the way, whether it’s battling your inbox, dealing with difficult customers, or trying to meet a deadline. Taking care of yourself can feel like one task too many on an already overloaded to-do list.

Here’s the thing though: when we prioritise wellness, those other tasks don’t feel quite as stressful. This is because we give ourselves room to process, decompress, and feel energised again. So, rather than seeing ‘wellness’ as another task on your list, consider it as a tool to open up some space.

Not sure where to start? Here are 10 quick wins you can implement right now…

1. Set reminders to move

This one’s for those of us working at desks and spending big chunks of the day sitting down. With commuting out of the picture for many, our step counts are dwindling dangerously low, and when we’re ‘heads down’ on a project, getting up for a stretch is the last thing on our mind. This means we may need a little help from our tech.

Try using your phone or calendar to send a reminder to move your body (we love the Stand Up! app). Alternatively, if your work sees you up on your feet a lot of the time, use a reminder to stretch it out or have a quick sit down if you can.

2. Make break-time more fun

We all know breaks are good for us. Breaks help to reduce stress, improve productivity and even encourage creative thinking – so why is it so hard to take them sometimes? If this is something you struggle with, we recommend creating a little incentive for yourself by making break-times more fun.

What can you do on your breaks that will make you more inclined to take them? Maybe it’s a daily doodle, a call with a friend, or catching up on your favourite TV show. Whatever it is, make it something you’ll really want to do, and never miss another break again.

3. Set (and communicate) your boundaries

The landscape of work has changed in the past couple of years, and a lot of us are working in new ways. Throughout this upheaval, our boundaries around work may have blurred. For example, where you once left the office bang on time, maybe now you work from home you notice work creeping into your evening.

Consider this a call to review your boundaries around work. Take a few minutes to write down your boundaries (such as, “I finish work at 5pm”) and remind yourself how these will support your wellbeing.

Finally, communicate them with others. If you work different hours now, let your co-workers know when they can reach you (and how). If your housemate keeps interrupting you when you’re working, explain to them that you’re busy but can chat to them during breaks. Remember, boundaries only work if we uphold them.

4. Change your environment

If you’re able to change up your working environment from time to time, give it a go! Being somewhere new can stimulate our creativity, and give us a motivational boost. This will depend on your role, but consider co-working spaces, heading to a cafe, or even taking a notebook and going to your local park for some big-picture thinking.

If you can’t leave your workplace, give it a spruce. Add some new pictures and plants, or reorganise your desk. Tiny tweaks can make a big difference.

5. Recognise your humanity

We are not machines that power-up, churn out work, then power-down. We’re humans with lives outside of work and we’re affected by what’s happening in those lives. It’s also OK if you don’t feel on top of your game every day, and it’s OK if your colleagues don’t either.

Remind yourself of your humanity during conversations with colleagues, ask them how they are, and check-in when big global events are happening. Tell people how you’re feeling, and be honest when you’re struggling.

6. Have non-work-related conversations, too

With the previous tip in mind, try to instigate some non-work chats from time to time. If you’re no longer working side-by-side with your colleagues, isolation can quickly kick in. And when the only talk happening is centred around work, it’s easy to lose any sense of connection.

Use your instant messaging tool to find out how people’s weekends are, ask a colleague if they fancy going for a coffee (in-person or virtually). As well as keeping you connected, this opens the door for conversations around mental health.

7. Switch up your snacks

If you’ve fallen into a snacking rut, you’re not alone. Reaching for a sugar boost at 3pm is common, but how does this make you feel in the long run? If it’s not making you feel great, try adding some variety in there. Opt for fresh fruits, nuts and seeds, dark chocolate, or peanut butter on toast to give you a longer-lasting energy boost.

8. Share wellbeing tips

Have you done an online fitness class you loved? Tried a new lunchtime recipe? Found a new technique for dealing with overwhelm? Don’t keep this information to yourself; share it with your colleagues! When you encourage a culture of sharing at work, you can learn from each other, and everyone benefits.

9. Take sick days when you need them

If you’re home-based, it may feel as if you can still work when you’re sick. After all, you’re not going to make anyone else sick, right? The problem is, when you don’t take time off to rest, you run the risk of making yourself more unwell.

You deserve time to rest, whether you’re feeling physically or mentally unwell. Call in sick, take the time you need, and return when you feel ready.

10. Plan tomorrow, today

There’s nothing worse than finishing work for the day and spending the whole evening thinking about what you need to do the next day. Reduce your mental load by writing up tomorrow’s to-do list before you finish work, so you can rest safe in the knowledge that your tasks for tomorrow are written down and ready for you tomorrow.

Which of these tips feels easiest for you right now? Whichever one it is, implement it and see if you notice a positive difference. Keep going, gradually bringing in more of these tips, and see how they impact you. What works for you? What doesn’t? There’s rarely a one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to wellness, so it’s up to you to cultivate a practice that suits you.

We spend around a third of our lives working, and we deserve to feel well while we’re doing it, so it’s time to push wellness up the agenda.


If you’re struggling with work-related stress, find out more information here or talk to a therapist. Learn more at counselling-directory.org.uk

We’re sharing four mindful artistic activities you can try while engaging with the natural world

A mindful moment: 
outdoors art

Getting crafty can do wonders for your wellbeing, from reducing stress, and helping to express yourself, to improving your self-esteem with a sense of accomplishment. And the thing is you don’t have to be a budding Picasso to reap the benefits; it’s not about the outcome, or a gallery-worthy creation. This is about how art makes you feel, the joy of creation, and the exploration of your emotions.

And combining these benefits with the wonders of nature just gives the whole activity an added boost. To really get mindful about it, consider your posture and how you are interacting with the artwork. Can you feel different textures, the sun on your skin, or the breeze brushing over you as you work? Follow your instincts about what you want to draw, sketch, paint etc., and don’t put any pressure on yourself if you make a mistake, or it doesn’t look how you planned. This is expressive; this is about connecting with the world around you deeply and intuitively for a moment.

1. Take a sketchbook

A simple notebook and pencil could transform your next wander through the woods. When something catches your eye, settle down in the peaceful surroundings and connect with them. Try to take in every little detail you can to see that natural element in a new light.

2. Use a camera

The art of photography is that you can really focus on what’s in front of you and forget the rest of the world, and anything worrying you. Consider the composition of your shot, and what feeling you want to evoke – do you want to take pictures of the same space at different times of the day to see how the mood changes?

3. Focus on colour

Whatever medium you prefer to use, you could experiment with the hues of the natural world by drawing or painting what you see, but in a colour that reflects how it makes you feel, or your emotions at the time. You might find the way you look at what’s in front of you changes when you see it through a new perspective.

4. Try crayon etching

This can be a fun pastime that harks back to childhood, so could be a great family activity to get everyone involved. Simply collect a range of leaves on a woodland walk, then place a piece of paper over them and rub a crayon across the page. The imprint of the leaf, with all its intricate veins, will show through, allowing you to appreciate all its details that might usually pass you by.


At just 18 years old, a car crash resulted in Sophie becoming paralysed from the chest down. Due to a lack of representation of disabled people, Sophie had no idea what her life had in store – and whether sex would ever be possible again.

Author, presenter, and award-winning disability advocate, Sophie is giving a voice to disabled women, sharing her dating journey, and her search for her happy ending

Sophie L Morgan: Intimately speaking

When I was 18 years old, I’ll admit, I was horny. The kind of horny that meant I was practically insatiable. I loved boys, I loved the smell of them, I loved the feel of them, I loved nothing more than being on top of them.

As a typical naughty teenage girl, other than playing sports or getting in trouble with my girlfriends, my priority was to be in the arms of a boy.

The day I received my A-level results, I went to a party with my friends to celebrate. On the way home, I was so distracted by a boy sitting beside me in the passenger seat, a boy I had longed to be with, that unfortunately, due to my lack of driving experience and the fact I was speeding, I lost control of my car and crashed.

It wasn’t until a few days later that I woke up in hospital and found out the full extent of the damage I had done to myself. In the crash, my skull had been fractured on impact, my nose crushed by the steering wheel, my jaw dislocated and eye socket crushed, but worst of all, at the place where my seatbelt crossed my chest, my body had twisted in the wrong direction and my spine had been damaged. I was told that I was paralysed from the chest down, and that I would never recover any movement or feeling from there down, ever again.

But, on hearing this distressing news, my main concern wasn’t about walking again, or about running, kicking, or dancing, all I could think about at that moment was whether I would be able to have sex again.

I had never met a paralysed person before. In fact, I was the first physically disabled person I had ever met, and therefore I had no idea what was possible for a woman like me and, I realise now, I did have some very harmful ableist ideas about disabled people – some of which were soon solidified when most of the boys in my life began to reject me.

At that time, my rehabilitation revolved around me regaining my independence, learning how to transfer into a wheelchair for example, or learning how to catheterise, and how to look after my paralysed body, and I was so consumed with these tasks that I found the rejection too much to deal with.

I decided to do all that I could to put thoughts of my love life, and certainly my sex life, to bed for the time being, and concentrate solely on getting home again and rebuilding my life. But the rejection cut me deep – more deeply than I cared to admit – and would take me years, decades even, to recover from. Especially when I did finally start dating again, and men treated me so differently from how I had been treated before my crash.

Sophie L Morgan: Intimately speaking

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Since my car crash, I’ve had a number of relationships, I even got engaged once. But none of them have been easy. Being with a disabled girl appeared to give men a licence to behave like they were heroic, lapping up praise from strangers for being with someone like me. But behind the scenes the relationships were, at times, toxic. There was the partner that laughed at me when I fell out of my wheelchair, the one who would take my wheelchair away from me when we had a fight, the one who left me in the sunshine to get second-degree burns after we had a row, the one who convinced me he should have sex with someone else as I couldn’t satisfy him.

Some of the relationships were good, but many were unhealthy. And it was due to the fact that those ableist ideas about what a disabled woman like me deserved, had never been resolved. Quite simply, I didn’t think I was good enough for anything better.

And then, a couple of years ago, the day that lockdown happened, my latest relationship ended. Being single at 36 was not what I had in mind. But it turned out to be a blessing, as I decided to write a book, a memoir about what had happened to me.

In writing it, I looked back at my past and realised how unhelpful and damaging my beliefs have been. I have come a long way and today, I feel stronger than ever before. I refuse to indulge those ideas anymore. After all, as I wrote in my book, “You don’t nearly die once, not to make the most out of living twice!”

Starting all over again is difficult for anyone, and combine that with past negative dating experiences, the prospect was even more daunting.

One thing I’ve never done in all these years is online dating. I was in a relationship when that began, and I thought I had dodged that bullet. I would watch my friends successfully and unsuccessfully grapple with the realities and consequences of putting themselves online, from the sidelines, hoping that that would never have to be me.

As a disabled woman I am rarely hit on, hardly noticed, so being ghosted, I thought, would take on a whole new meaning. Being judged so superficially would pack a more painful punch.

But having finished writing my book and feeling braver than ever, I have decided to take the plunge and go online dating. Despite having the same fears any of us have when putting ourselves out there, selecting a handful of the best photos to show ourselves online, writing a profile that will attract the attention of the right person, I am going for it, choosing to believe in my worth and enjoying the process.

Because, disabled or not, we all deserve love, intimacy, passion, and pleasure. We all deserve a happy ending, and I’m off to find mine!


Sophie L Morgan: Intimately speaking
‘Driving Forwards: A journey of resilience and empowerment after life-changing injury’ by Sophie L Morgan is out now (Sphere, £16.99).


Science has something to say about the ‘grumpy old people’ stereotype

People get kinder with age, study finds

The stereotype of the ‘grumpy old man/woman’ is something that’s present in most of our lives, and scattered throughout the media we consume – but is it about time we challenged the notion?

The answer could be, yes, as, According to a new study published in Frontiers in Behavioural Neuroscience, people may actually get kinder as they age – with findings showing that helping behaviours and life satisfaction generally begin to increase after middle age.

Researchers found that this behaviour is largely linked to a rise in the levels of the hormone oxytocin (the ‘feel-good’ chemical) as we age – with oxytocin previously linked to influences on trust, altruism, charity, and generosity.

Using blood samples from 103 participants, aged between 18 and 99, to measure oxytocin levels, the researchers looked at three prosocial behaviours: money and goods donated to charity during the past year, and social-sector volunteering.

Additionally, they showed the participants a video about a boy with cancer, which previous studies had found to induce oxytocin release in the brain. Blood was taken before and after the video to measure the change. They were also given the option to donate some of their earnings from the study to a childhood cancer charity, which was also used to measure their immediate prosocial behaviour. The findings indicated that the neural chemistry that helps sustain social relationships and, consequently, live a fulfilled life, appears to strengthen with age.

While the results are fascinating, the researchers noted that more study is needed to further our understanding of this area – and they also noted the link between genes, our developmental history, and current life events and the brain’s release of oxytocin – finding examples in the study of young people who released a lot of oxytocin and older people who did not.

Of course, it’s also worth considering the self-fulfilling cycle of ‘doing good because you feel good’ and ‘feeling good because you’re doing good’ – a phenomenon that has been noted in previous studies looking at the ways that volunteering can support our mental health and overall wellbeing. Beyond that, a sense of purpose and unity is also hugely beneficial.

So, is it time that we waved goodbye to the ‘grumpy old so-and-so’ stereotypes? Probably, yes. Not least because of the joy that is so often found in growing older, but also because a study conducted by Orb Media found that people who have a positive attitude towards getting older have better mental health and, incredibly, actually live longer.

By the year 2050, the UN estimates that one in six people in the world will be over 65 years old, and nearly half a billion will be older than 80. So, let’s rethink our takes on ageing, and embrace the opportunities for connection and kindness that are waiting on the horizon.

Innovative apps that can enable you to live more sustainably with the click of a button

1. My Footprint: Climate & Nature

5 eco-friendly apps to help you support the planet

Created by conservation charity the World Wildlife Fund (WWF), this handy app provides you with a wealth of detail on the latest facts and info on climate change issues, as well as enabling you to calculate your carbon footprint, and see how different areas of your life contribute to this. With this knowledge, you can then take part in challenges of your choice to help reduce your footprint, sharing your progress with friends and family, as you join an online community working together to try to do good.

2. HappyCow

This app allows users anywhere in the world to find local vegan-friendly food options, including takeaway choices, gluten-free, and a range of cuisines. The community aspect allows users to share reviews and recommendations, which can be helpful when planning meals out for anyone wanting to cut down on their meat consumption.

3. Good On You

For the fashion conscious, this app is a must-have that gives you the power to check the impact of brands on issues that mean most to you. With more than 3,000 brands currently listed, and the option to request others to be added in time, this is a handy source of sustainable shopping information.

4. NoWaste

Digitise your fridge with this app that keeps track of what’s in your pantry, and reminds you of expiration dates. A useful tool, this can help you to use up foods before they spoil, plan meals more effectively, and even reduce unnecessary expenditure with a clearer overview of what’s in your cupboards.

5. Too Good To Go

With the aim of reducing the monumental amount of food waste from shops and restaurants, this app helps connect users with local businesses that have unsold produce to be collected for a fraction of the cost. All you have to do is search, place your order, and go pick it up!

5 eco-friendly apps to help you support the planet

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After a big meal, do you get a burning sensation in the chest, or the feeling of a lump in your throat? It might be more than a bit of indigestion – and there are some simple dietary changes that can help ease those acid attacks

Dietary changes that can help beat acid reflux

Ever found yourself struck with a burning sensation in the throat or chest? Or have issues with burping and indigestion that make you feel as if you’ve got a lump in your throat? These are all common acid reflux symptoms, which, while not usually serious, can be extremely uncomfortable and impact your mental health. A study of patients with reflux found more than 40% of them had anxiety, and 34% had depression. Part of this may be due to worrying about symptoms and dealing with painful flare-ups (which can make socialising or eating your favourite foods tricky).

While many with reflux need to take medication (usually a proton pump inhibitor, which reduces the production of acid), others can find diet changes useful (whether tried alone or alongside medication). This may include avoiding certain trigger foods, changing the times you eat, or knowing what foods to turn to when reflux flares. Here are our top tips for eating to beat acid reflux.

1. Consider your morning brew carefully

Your morning cuppa could get your reflux off to a bad start. A recent study of more than 250,000 women with reflux, found a correlation between those who had the highest intake of coffee, tea, and soda, and reflux, while replacing these with water reduced the risk.

“High caffeine intake of more than the recommended upper intake of 400mg per day (around four coffees or six teas) can cause the muscle into the stomach to relax and open, which allows acid to move up into the oesophagus,” explains nutritionist Shannon Western.

Switching to herbal tea may be a helpful idea, but you may want to hold the peppermint for now – some people find this aggravates their reflux rather than helping it.

2. Swap your takeaway

Many people notice their reflux worsen after a takeaway or a fancy meal out, but why is this? Well, reflux symptoms have been shown to happen more often when people ate food that was fatty, fried, or spicy – something that we can often find in our favourite takeaways.

“These can trigger reflux because they cause the sphincter into the stomach (a muscular ring) to open up and let stomach acid come up the oesophagus,” explains Shannon.

That’s not to say takeaways are out of the question, but you might find some swaps could be useful: if spicy foods are a trigger, could you try a milder dish? If fatty fried foods make your reflux worse, then could you opt for a lower-fat takeaway, such as sushi or grilled fish?

3. Eat your dinner earlier in the day

With busy days, many of us might find ourselves not sitting down for dinner until late in the evening. This can cause night-time reflux to strike – one study found that increasing the gap between dinner and bedtime can help with GERD (gastroesophageal reflux disease), citing a gap of four hours-plus the most useful. While this isn’t always possible, scheduling dinner earlier in the day, or eating your biggest meal at lunch, with a smaller supper, might help.

4. Give ginger a go

While spicy food can be a trigger, one spice that is thought to be helpful in the battle against reflux is ginger. Ginger is known for its anti-nausea properties, which is ideal since acid reflux can often cause feelings of sickness (and even vomiting, in rare cases). It’s also known to support the digestive tract in general: brew up ginger tea with fresh ginger and lemon, or add a few pieces to your stir fry.

5. Adopt a Mediterranean diet

The Mediterranean diet has been proven to have many health benefits – from helping to prevent cognitive decline to slashing your risk of a heart attack. But could it also help you tackle reflux, too? There’s some evidence to suggest it might actually be as beneficial as common reflux meds. One study compared those treated with PPIs to those who adopted a plant-based Mediterranean diet (alongside alkaline water) and found the latter was actually more effective. A Mediterranean diet focuses on wholegrain, fruits, and vegetables, and avoids processed foods and red meat.

Dietary changes that can help beat acid reflux

6. Calcium-rich foods could be helpful

We’ve all heard the remedy of sipping on a glass of milk when reflux strikes, but why is it so effective? Well, it’s all to do with high calcium content – which is why calcium carbonate is often the main ingredient of antacids we take to neutralise our stomach acid. Dietary calcium can help, but be mindful of the foods you use – for example, full-fat milk is packed with calcium but you may find the dairy or high fat content exacerbates symptoms. There are many other calcium-rich foods that don’t contain dairy if that’s on the list, such as fortified plant-based milks and almonds.

7. Understand your gut bacteria

The bacteria in our guts are closely connected to reflux, even though symptoms occur much further up in the digestive tract. Firstly, it’s important to know about H. pylori – a bacterial infection which is connected to acid reflux. H. pylori can develop from childhood, and may stay in your stomach for decades without causing any problems – but, for some, it can go on to cause stomach ulcers and reflux symptoms. It’s important your GP tests you for H. pylori if your reflux is ongoing, and antibiotics can be prescribed to quickly treat the infection.

Even if you don’t have H. pylori, you might find probiotics rather than antibiotics worth trying – while we don’t know much yet about reflux and probiotics in particular, they can help support the overall health of your digestive tract.

8. It’s not just about what you eat

As well as considering the types of food you eat (and when you eat it), Shannon advises that how you eat is just as important.

“Some changes that might be helpful are ensuring you eat in an upright position and avoid lying down close to finishing a meal, making sure to chew food properly, and don’t leave too long between eating (i.e. eating at least every 3–4 hours),” she adds.

Diet change may not replace medication, and it’s always important to have a chat with your GP before making any big changes, but can be a great help when reflux strikes. However, if your symptoms don’t ease or suddenly worsen, do make an appointment with your GP as soon as possible.


Find out more by visiting nutritionist-resource.org.uk

Covering everything from anxiety to adult children through to needs, self-esteem and work, Will Young has written a brilliant book on wellbeing using his own life experiences as a starting point

Will Young on being yourself - and happier...

There’s real beauty in sharing stories about mental health and wellbeing. Lived experiences shared can provide others with an opportunity to open up too, listen, learn and feel less alone. Hopefully, they’ll be able to take the next step to improve their own wellbeing as a result – even if that step is to simply stop, breathe deeply and take a moment to calm their nervous system.

Will Young’s new book Be Yourself and Happier: The A-Z of Wellbeing is generous when it comes to sharing, covering a raft of mental health and wellbeing subjects as well as Will’s own experiences and proactive education on the topics included, stemming from his breakdown in 2011.

“In this book I am sharing everything I have learnt over a lifetime of trying my damndest to be as content and peaceful as I can be,” he writes. “It’s all the stuff that I’ve tried myself, and that I believe is truly invaluable.”

Read the interview with Will in Issue 62 of Happiful, out on 19 May

Speaking on Happiful’s I am. I have podcast, Will shares his thoughts on…

Being a person

“I often say to people when I’m mentoring them, ‘You’re not a robot, you’re a human being!’ It’s like, I have feelings, I have an identity, I have a character. We’re quick to forget that and invalidate ourselves.”

Garden of life

“I recently noticed I was feeling out of kilter and I started to think about that. I use the Garden of Life analogy, so one bush might be work, another plant is friends, then socialising and sprituality. I thought, I haven’t socialised outside of work for a long time and I must do something about it. Then I realised there was some resistance which I though was interesting too.

“These are the tools and metaphors and that I really do use on a daily basis.”

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Humour

“We can laugh with ourselves and that can create empathy. There are lots of things that my mind might come up with that I think, ‘oh that’s so funny that I’d be thinking that today!’

“For me, humour is a great resource, it always has been. It’s also a source of mindfulness. To be humourous is to have a sense of being the observer and that takes us one step back.”

Fear

“I get scared the whole time and I used to berate myself for it. Then I realised through reading and therapy that I’m allowed to be scared. I can be an adult and be scared of things.”

Your inner child

“Talking about the inner child, I sometimes want to retch becuase its such therapy speak! I do like to remain childlike though. My Dad is very childlike and it’s hysterical.

“I’m 43 and I like nothing better than running around with a four year old playing hide and seek, it’s the best thing ever.”

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You’re the captain of your ship

“We’re all the captain of our ship and if you’re running a ship, you’re running a lot of different things. You’re always modifying and balancing – constantly. And that’s the way it should be.”

Listen to Will’s episode of I am. I have

Be Yourself and Happier: The A-Z of Wellbeing by Will Young, £14.99, published by Ebury Spotlight, is out now

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With mask mandates starting to lift on some airlines, there’s a new layer of worry for travellers

How to cope with flight anxiety post covid

During the pandemic, most travel was restricted. A lot of us were confined to our homes or the occasional local walk and for some this became a comfort zone of sorts. Recently I had to travel by train to speak at a conference and stay overnight in a hotel. I realised as the day approached that I was feeling more anxious about the travel than the public speaking, and judging by a quick poll on my Instagram stories, I wasn’t alone.

As well as not being used to travelling and having to step out of our comfort zones, there’s a new layer of anxiety to contend with – the worry about catching Covid.

While some people have already flown to far-off destinations, some of us are approaching trips for the first time since the pandemic started. Understandably, there may be some trepidation. On top of the travel anxiety, there may be pandemic-related admin requirements like organising lateral flow tests the day before flying (and crossing your fingers you’ll be fit to fly), and wearing masks on the flight.

This week, however, we’ve had the news that the US will no longer be enforcing mask mandates on planes or trains. For some this news was a welcome relief, for others it’s a disappointment and added worry.

Non-US airlines may have different rules and requirements, so it’s worth checking with your airline directly before you fly.

Whether you’re feeling a new twinge of anxiety around flying, or your existing fear of flying has gotten worse, know that you’re not alone in how you’re feeling. Here are some ideas that may help.


Focus on what you can control (and let go of what you can’t)

At its core, most anxiety is about control. So it can help to recognise what you do have control over. For example, you can choose to wear a mask while travelling, even if it isn’t required. You can choose to give yourself plenty of time to get to the airport. You can choose how you spend your time before the flight to help you feel calm.

There will also be elements you can’t control, of course. Sometimes acknowledging this in itself can be freeing. Letting it go may not come so easily, but this is where therapeutic support may be helpful. Cognitive behavioural therapy is often recommended for anxiety and hypnotherapy is becoming increasingly popular for both anxiety and phobias.

Consider hypnotherapy to ease anxiety

The reason hypnotherapy is so powerful for anxiety and phobias is that it works on a subconscious level. It’s here, in the subconscious that fears and phobias operate from. They may not be rational, so trying to be logical and batting the fear away with statistics doesn’t always help.

A hypnotherapist will use hypnosis to offer positive suggestions, helping to essentially rewire your thinking when faced with anxiety. If you want to use hypnotherapy for fear of flying, be sure to allow yourself time to attend sessions before your trip. Many hypnotherapists will also give you self-hypnosis tracks to listen to while flying.

Avoid caffeine and alcohol

Anxiety can often be exacerbated by too much caffeine or alcohol, so it may help to lay off them during your flight. Instead stick to calming herbal teas and water to stay hydrated. If your anxiety leads to an upset stomach, you may also want to ensure you’re eating simple foods that won’t make you feel unwell.

Transform anxiety into excitement

Now, this is easier said than done, but to our body, fear and excitement feel very similar. It can help to focus on the purpose of your trip – what awaits you when you touch down? If you’re going on holiday, focus on the new experiences you’re going to have. If you’re travelling to see a loved one, think about how great it’ll be to see them in person.

Use this as a focus when anxiety comes up and remind yourself that you have done scary things before and survived. You can do it again.


While we hope these tips can help, it’s worth noting that for those who are clinically vulnerable, it isn’t just about easing anxiety (especially when mask mandates are being lifted). It’s about doing what feels possible and reasonable to you in terms of travel, and for more allies to advocate for the vulnerable.


If you’re ready to try hypnotherapy, you can find a hypnotherapist on Hypnotherapy Directory.

You may have heard of colour therapy, or how different hues can lift your mood, but utilising this concept by finding all those colours in nature can boost their effect, giving you double helpings of happiness

How to use colour therapy to embrace the outdoors

Putting a bunch of fresh flowers on your desk, or wearing some brightly coloured jewellery, can be an instant mood booster, but the reason for this
goes beyond simply adding a splash of colour to your daily life. The colours themselves can have a powerful physical and psychological effect, leading us to feel calmer or more confident.

When you combine the impact of these colours with the power of Mother Nature, the effects may be even greater. So, walking through a green field could have twice the effect on your wellbeing compared with simply surrounding yourself with green cushions or blankets.

It’s time to discover, and embrace, the power of colour in the great outdoors.

How colours can help our health

“People are a lot more intuitive about colour than they realise,” says Sarupa Shah, a colour healer and business coach from thesoulagency.com. “You might find yourself wanting to wear a specific colour, or buying some new bedsheets in a different colour, but you’re not sure why.”

Sarupa explains that our craving for certain colours is similar to why we crave particular foods; our bodies and brains are sending us a message. For example, yellow is associated with mental faculties and concentration, so you might find yourself reaching for a yellow jumper if you’re studying or writing a presentation.

We instinctively seek out certain colours in nature, too. Fiona Austin is an anxiety specialist and psychotherapist who runs programmes helping us reconnect with nature. She says, “We need colours, like reds and oranges, to see if fruit is fresh and ready to pick, while blue is known to be calming. That’s why looking up at a big blue sky can help us feel more relaxed.”

Once you know what certain colours can do – and where to enjoy them in nature – you can create a colour prescription.

The big blue

Blue may be our most important colour, as we’re surrounded by it – imagine our vast open skies and wide blue oceans. “It’s a very healing colour; it soothes and calms,” says Sarupa. “Think about why doctors and nurses might wear blue scrubs. It signals to us that we’re safe.”

In fact, research shows that installing blue light in train stations can help prevent suicides (noted in a study published in 2013 in the Journal of Affective Disorders), while a study from the University of Granada, in collaboration with the School for Special Education San Rafael, in Spain, found that people who lay in a room that was bathed in blue light returned to a state of relaxation more quickly after a stressful situation that those who did not.

Fiona says, “During treatment, I might ask people to lie down and just stare up at the sky. Most of us spend all day looking down – at computer screens or our phones – but looking up at that huge blue canvas is incredibly uplifting.”

Staring at the sea can have a similar effect, and spending time at the seaside is known to boost our mental health. A 2019 study carried out across 18 countries found that those who live by the sea have better mental wellbeing, but even just visiting the coast is enough to boost your mood.

If you can’t get to the seaside soon, listening to waves while you meditate or imagining a big expanse of blue can help.

How to use colour therapy to embrace the outdoors

The green machine

Green is another key colour for our wellbeing, thanks to its psychological benefits. Sarupa says, “As a colour, it’s known to be relaxing. I might use it with clients to help reduce their anxiety levels before something like a job interview.”

And although green may not be your go-to colour in general, its effect in nature is undeniable. A vast and growing body of research shows that being in green spaces can lower our stress levels, reduce our risk of depression, improve our mental wellbeing, and drop our blood pressure levels, while exercising outdoors can raise our self-esteem and happiness levels far more than hitting the gym. A 2016 study even found that prisoners who took part in gardening programmes decreased their chances of reoffending by 20%.

“Coniferous trees release terpenes, chemicals that give them that ‘Christmas tree’ smell. Studies have found terpenes have anti-inflammatory and neuroprotective effects, and boost our white blood cells,” Fiona says. “We may not know the science, but we do know we feel better when we walk in the woods.”

If you can’t get outside, looking out the window at a green landscape or simply having pictures of forests on your walls is known to boost your wellbeing.

It’s all yellow

We associate yellow with warmth, sunshine, flowers and happiness, or smiling emojis at the very least. Fiona says, “Yellow is a bright and uplifting colour. It’s almost impossible to feel down on a sunny day.”

But, that said, too much of this hue can have the opposite effect. “Yellow can be overstimulating, so you might feel nauseous,” warns Sarupa.

In general, yellow gives us confidence and clarity, so pop a bunch of daffodils on your teenager’s desk if they’re revising, or use an image of a field of sunflowers as your screensaver at work. Why not get outside and into the real thing over the weekend? Even eating a banana will go some way to getting more yellow in your life.

Orange is another warm colour, linked to creativity and inspiration. “You find a lot of orange in sunrises, which also signify the beginning of something new,” says Fiona.

The light emitted by a sunrise can also trigger melanopsin, a type of cell in the retina, to kick-start our body clock into action. If you’re feeling ‘stuck’, mentally or physically, try watching a sunrise, or using a dawn-simulator alarm clock for the same effect.

How to use colour therapy to embrace the outdoors

From red to purple and beyond

There are many theories that surround the colour red; it means danger, sex, power, or anger. “In colour therapy, red signifies purpose and action. You could try wearing red if you need a boost,” says Sarupa.

Red is also ‘our’ colour – we’re made up of red blood, after all – and studies show our brains react to red in certain ways. Seeing red (literally in this case) makes us react more quickly and more forcefully, and it also makes us more competitive. But it makes us more susceptible – research reveals waitresses who wear red make more money from male customers. To harness the power of red in nature, treat yourself to a bunch of red roses, enjoy a bowl of red berries for breakfast, or take a walk in a colourful autumn forest.

Further down the spectrum lie the purple colours. Sarupa says, “These are good for meditation, and are linked with spirituality, particularly with endings.”

Purples are also found in sunsets, which is why watching one can feel so powerful. “They still captivate us, even after millions of years,” says Fiona. Add an outside meditation session or gentle yoga to the end of your day to double the effects of the cooler colours on your health.

There are so many benefits to be found in the bouquet of colours outside, yet the truth is we still don’t know all the links between colour and our wellbeing. Humans couldn’t see violet for thousands of years, so what other colours may be hiding at the end of the rainbow? The future looks bright, or even ultraviolet, for our health.


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